Thursday, July 27, 2006
Weaning - Thumb Sucking
I didn't want to force her to quit that habit initially, because :
~ I find her very cute sucking her thumb (esp when holding on to Mr Blue)
~ It's a good way for her to comfort herself esp when she wakes up middle of the night from a bad dream
Then, she was hurting her thumb more and more with all the vigorous sucking, until 2 weeks ago there was actually a 0.5cm cut, which was bleeding a bit. She occasionally complained, "thumb pain pain". So we thought, maybe it's time she should stop.
We didn't plaster her thumb, nor put bitter ointment on her thumb. We just 'psycho' her. We told her
~ she's jie-jie now, it's not nice to be sucking her thumb
~ to compare her left (which she doesn't suck) with her right thumb, left one is so smooth and 'nice', and the right one is not nice and so rough
~ she's hurting her thumb because she's feeling the pain now, and if she continue sucking, her thumb may get broken and I'll have to shelve her thumb in the cupboard like I did with one of the broken figurine we have in our house (to this, she wailed and cried. Bad mummy!).
We even told her if she shook hands with people, people will say, "oh, such a nice girl, how come your thumb not nice one?". To which she replied, "Zara shake hand with this hand then (reaching her left hand out)".
During nap time, and bed time, when she asked for her linen cloth, the breast pad or Mr Blue (all are her comfort objects which are her 'companions' during thumb sucking sessions), we reminded her, "Don't suck thumb yeah. Thumb thumb after broken and pain pain yeah." She would then said, "Zara hug hug only. No suck suck thumb."
The first 2 days were tougher, esp during nap time, she would cry, knowing she cannot suck her thumb (but we didn't refrain her physically, just told her she shouldn't suck), she even asked me to 'go upstairs' (she naps downstairs) and didn't want me to be next to her. The first time ever she rejected me, because I was the culprit who wanted her to quit.
The next 2 days, she still cried, but she would ask me to sing to her and pat pat her. She would sob, and then eventually drift off to sleep.
Then the following days, she got a bit cunning. She would 'negotiate' with us. "Zara eat sweet first." or "Kakak give Zara choklat", "and then Zara no suck suck thumb." And she did keep to her promise, after the sweet and chocolate, she would not fuss and go to sleep without the thumb.
In the night, it's easier, because she's with me during bed time. I'll just remind her she shouldn't suck her thumb, and that she's promised us. I would hug her while she smells and twists the piece of linen, until she falls asleep.
We gave her lots of praises and encouragement. Praising her that she's such a big girl, and a good girl, that she listens to us and not suck her thumb. Telling her her thumb is getting nicer and smoother (which is the truth) and no more painful. She would then ask all of us to kiss her thumb and then smile gleefully.
I notice she still sucks her thumb in the middle of the night, unconsciously. However, she used to suck on it for long period of time, but now it was just a few sucks here, and there, and she would pull out her thumb after that. Or when I pull it out, she would not place it back in her mouth like she used to (previously it was like a tug-of-war between the 2 of us).
We told her we would get her a present if she totally stop sucking her thumb. We asked her if she wanted a bicycle as she's always admiring the bigger kids around our neighborhood riding one. She said, "Zara don't want bicycle. Zara want paint paint only." So that's the deal, when she's totally weaned off, we'll bring out the new finger painting set I got Daddy to buy her from Changi Airport recently.
And here she is, finally able to fall asleep without sucking the thumb.
Wednesday, July 26, 2006
Hickory Dickory Dock
Here's what Zara said while watching.
"Kory, Kory, Dock, Mouse went up the clock."
"Mouse climbed up hang clothes there!" (refering to the coat hanger)
"Mouse climbed up the sky!" (referring to the mouse up on the curtain railing)
Then when she saw Rusty chasing after the mouse, she said, "Wow, Rusty so angry. Catch the mouse like a monkey."
(In the end, Rusty being fat and lazy, quit after a while. It was Daddy who smacked the mouse with a broom when he got back from work. Zara didn't see how ferocious Daddy was though, as she was asleep when Daddy murdered the mouse.)
The following day, I asked her, "Where is the mouse now?"
Zara : "Go up to the sky oh-ready (already)." (she last saw the mouse in the curtain railing)
Me : "You want to go and catch the muose?"
Zara : "Don't want."
Me : "Why don't want?"
Zara : "Becauzzzzzzzz (dragging the word while thinking what to say)... Zara scared."
Tuesday, July 25, 2006
Daddy Sleep On Sofa
I asked Daddy to 'observe' how I do it, so that he can tuck Zara in in future if I have night call instead of having to always depend on Tuyam. However, since Daddy always excites Zara to the extend of her being alert instead of sleepy, I told Daddy to lay low on the floor, and listen to how I handle her.
While Zara was telling me what she wanted to dream about, we started to hear some snoring. Oh well, this always happens (I mean him falling asleep while caring for Zara, but not the snoring) so I just ignored it, but Zara suddenly kept quiet and listened intently. Daddy must be very tired as he usually doesn't snore, and it was getting louder.
Zara sat up suddenly, in a frightened voice she said, "Go down stairs! Daddy go downstairs."
Me : "What happened girl?"
Zara : *with tembling voice* "Daddy go sleep downstairs."
Me : "Why? Zara scared?"
Zara : *about to cry* "Zara scared scared. Daddy snore snore. So loud."
So I had to
After Daddy left, she calmed down and went to sleep.
In the morning, she remembered what happened, and she thought Daddy spent the night on the sofa.
"*pointed my side of the bed* Mummy sleep here"
" *poited to her cot* Zara sleep here"
"Daddy go down stairs sleep on the sofa."
I asked, "Why Daddy sleep on the sofa?"
Zara : "because daddy snore snore like a pig until Zara scared. Oink Oink" (my fault, when I got Daddy to go down stairs the previous night, I told him he was snoring like a pig and frightening Zara)
and continued, "Daddy go downstairs, and then no more sound. Zara no more scared."
Monday, July 24, 2006
Weekend (lots of) Fun - Photos
Saturday - Wall Painting
She wanted to do some painting, but when I prepared her paint and drawing paper, she said "Zara want paint body. Paint face, paint knee".
So we moved her to the bathroom. Let her do some painting on the bathroom wall, and paint her body. After that, I just washed the wall out and gave her a bath.
Sunday - Aquaria, KLCC.
Daddy was contemplating if we should go to the zoo or Aquaria, I suggested Aquaria due to the hot and hazy weather.
It was a good outing for Zara. She was very fascinated with the water creatures, and some of the other animals available on display, e.g. snakes, turtles, tortoise, spiders, frogs, raccoon (yes! There's even a raccoon). Before the trip, I told her she'll be seeing sharks, puffer fish, star fish, sea horse. I was a bit disappointed when I couldn't show her any star fish or sea horses, I felt kind of cheated.
There really isn't much show cases on colorful sea creatures and coral reefs. The main attraction is the tunnel through the big aquarium with sharks, Murray fish, stingray swimming about and above us. If it wasn't for Zara, I don't think we would have ever gone.
Zara was very happy to be in the Aquaria
We spent the most time in the tunnel. Zara kept saying "Shark fly high in the sky" after our visit because many times the sharks swam above us.
More time in the tunnel. And at last, we saw some living corrals, with some colourful clown fishes.
And then I got this as a present from Daddy. A Samsung MP3 player. We were considering an iPod and this, but an iPod costs RM200 more for the same features. So the $ factor decided for us.
Daddy got this for me so that I can play some classical music for the baby in the stomach. With Zara, I used to sit in front of my notebook with earphones stuck to my stomach. This would make me so much more mobile, and I can still move about and play with Zara, while the baby has a dose of his/her classical music.
Sunday, July 23, 2006
20th Month Update
~ Weight 9.7kg (0.5Kg in a month, yikes!)
~ Height : 81cm
~ No new teeth sprouting. Her 4 Cuspids (canines) are still not fully sprouted.
Dexterity :
Climbing up and down stairs while holding on to the side of the stairs.
Able to feed herself while using a fork.
Language :
~ She can count 1 to 10 now.
~ She's started reciting the alphabets A to Z, but skipping quite a few letters in between (e.g. a, b, c, d, e, f, g then skip, and go straight to q, r, s.. etc).
~ She's able to identify and name shapes, e.g. circle, square and triangle
~ She sings and recite the nusery rhymes to herself a lot, and is getting pretty good at it.
~ She even sings part of some Chinese children songs even when she doesn't speak the languge (through memorising the sounds).
(and lots more which I'd captured in some of the posts)
Feeding and Food:
3 meals and 3 milk feeds a day. Eats a lot of snacks in between, like fruits, biscuit, chocolate, home made ice lollies, nuts, raisins, cheese etc.
Her current favourite junk food is chocolate (she especially loves the dark chocolate with marzipan that Daddy got from Germany), and fruit gummies.
She 'orders' her food nowadays, asking for "bread and cheese", "egg sandwich", "yogurt", "pancake" for breakfast.
"noodle", "porridge", "fish ball" or just "egg" for lunch
And dinner she knows she always have what we have and she only ask to eat what we're eating.
Emotions :
A loving girl, not afraid of strangers, but will check for our approval before being 'friendly' to one.
She knows being nice is not to be rude, not to say words like stupid, or push people away. She knows being nice is to say thank you, please, sorry when needed.
She loves watching Barney, Richard Scarry, Wheels in The Bus; and watches at least 2 shows a day (her max).
She's in the midst of being weaned off thumbsucking (oh I'm so going to miss seeing her cute little thumb in her mouth).
Wednesday, July 19, 2006
Let me brush your teeth
"Do you want your teeth to be like Uncle Ah Seng's?"
Remeber Sengkor's chocolate coated teeth, she would always shake her head and walk to the toilet to have her teeth brushed.
She always says, "Zara's teeth so nice. Zara brush teeth."
One night, when Zara was playing with Daddy, she spotted Daddy's teeth.
"Daddy's teeth not nice! Zara help Daddy brush teeth."
To see what she would do, we gave her Daddy's tooth brush, and she started helping Daddy to brush his teeth.
Even telling him, "Daddy, EEEEEE" (so Daddy have to say EEEEEE for her to brush his front teeth).
"Daddy, AAAAAAAA." (and Daddy said AAAAA so she can reach for his molars)
"Daddy, brush tongue." (and Daddy stuck his tongue out)
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
Cute mistakes she makes
Sauce is Horse to her.
As in Soya Horse and Chilli Horse. She would say, "Don't want Chilli Horse. Spicy."
Anything that has pines, or prickly she gets them mix up.
Porcupine is a Pineapple
Puffer fish is a Pine Cone
Pine Cone is a Porcupine
But a Pineapple is a Pineapple.
She pronunces the BL sound as BR. As in "the light brink brink".
And when something drops, she says "Opsy Dentally", fusing the phrase "Opsy Daisy" with "accidentally".
She calls a biscuit, bis-kot, as how Tuyam pronunces it. Recently I corrected her, and now when she said biskot, she would self correct and mutter, "biscuit, not biskot, biskot is Mayay (Malay)".
Monday, July 17, 2006
Our Quality Time with Zara
I take over the caring for Zara from Tuyam at 6:30pm as she has to prepare dinner.
What we'll do is go to the park together, or have some water fun before she takes her bath. Then we'll have dinner together at the table (Tuyam will feed her), normally this is when Daddy comes back. After dinner, we'll watch a video or to do some drawing together.
At about 9pm, I'll prepare her for bed, and Zara knows her bed time routine.
She has to wash her hands first or she can't touch or get on the bed.
Then it's teeth brushing, followed by changing her into her pajamas. I'll get her to play on her own or get Daddy to watch over her, while I take my night shower.
After that, we let her choose 2 books from her stack which we will read to her.
After reading (up to 3 times a book, sometimes), we'll just talk about what we read from the book. Sometimes she tries to 'read' us the book; sometimes she just talk about the story or book.
Like when we read Goldilocks and the 3 Bears, she would say something like
"Zara like porridge also."
"Zara don't like hot poridge, Zara like warm warm one."
"Zara got Daddy, Mummy, and Zara."
"Zara like soft soft bed. Can roll here roll there." etc.
This is a good time to get her talking.
If she's still full of energy, we'll do some singing, or else, I'll make her bottle of milk, turn the lights off and have her drink her milk. This is the time Daddy will say his good night, and leave the room.
After her milk, I'll kiss her good night, "Good night Zara, sweet dreams." and she'll repeat, "Good night mummy, sweet dreams."
If she didn't drift off to sleep immediately, she would start telling me what she wants to dream about. I don't know if she understood what dream is, but she would go ..
"Dream about...Small small cheese. Cold cold, yummy yummy one. Zara like."
"and then... chocolate. Sweet sweet one! Very yummy. Zara put in the mouth."
"Dream about... swimming. Zara swim swim with dolphins. Water cold cold. So nice!"
"Dream about.. the zoo. Zara see lion, elephant, giraffe.." etc etc
I'll just be the facilitaor and prompt her to tell me more, but let her do all the talking.
Sometimes I get too tired, and I'll drift off to sleep before her. Sometimes, I can hear the last word coming out from her mouth, and the next thing, she's sound asleep.
This is the quality time we have with her, daily, unless I have a night meeting to attend and Tuyam has to tuck her to bed.
Sunday, July 16, 2006
Water Fun - photos
I painted her stomach for her, and then let her paint the rest of her body. It's washable paint, and we did that outdoor. So.. no sweat!
I washed the paint off before I let her dip in the pool.. It was a hot day. She absolutely loved it!
On Saturday, we brought her to my sis' apartment for a dip in the real pool.
Putting on her arm float for her (Her neck float was getting a too small for her already).
Being in the big pool is different for her, she can't touch the ground, so she was clinging on to me.
I managed to let her lie on the water to float for a few seconds without holding on to me. What an achievement for her! Or course, we gave her lots of cheers as well!
I then got Daddy to look after her. Zara was 'demanding' Daddy to bring her to the small pool, and then big pool and then small pool ..., not being able to make up her mind. "This one not nice, that one nicer, Daddy go there *point to the other pool she wasn't in*"
I just ignore Daddy's complaints about Zara making him run around and had a good swim.
I used to swim a lot when I was pregnant with Zara, going to the gym (with pool) at least twice a week to swim for 20mins (non stop). Since we moved and it's too far for me to go to the gym (and anyway I discontinued my membership), this is the first time I went for a swim after I knew I was pregnant.
I told Daddy we have to go to my sis' place more often to swim. For the benefit of Zara and myself.
Wednesday, July 12, 2006
Wawa & Baba Black Sheep
Me : Zara, what is your name?
Zara : Wawa.
Me : No, not wawa. Your name is ZARA.
Zara : *pointed to her chest* Wawa
Me : You can call yourself Wawa if you want, but your name is ZA-RA!
Zara : *quiet*
Me : Tell mummy again. What is your name?
Zara : Wawa's name Cookie!
Me : *giggled* Your name is cookie? A biscuit?
Zara : *laughed* Hahaha. Wawa's name cookie!
Me : Your name is not cookie la. Your name is ZA-RA!
Zara : Hahaha. *repeated after me* Not cookie la. ZA-AH!
Me : Yes. Your name is Zara.
Zara : Not cookie! *giggled*
Nowadays, I could really have a 'conversation' with her, and I can see, she has some sense of humour.
She has also started singing quite a fair bit. With all the miss pronunciation, most of the time, we could still make out what song she's singing. Here's Zara's attempt to sing the song Baa Baa Black Sheep.
Tuesday, July 11, 2006
Zara's 嬷嬷 (Mama - Paternal Grand mother)
MIL's style of caring for a child vs mine is very different, especially in these 3 areas :
1) She didn't believe in breastfeeding, and thought I breast fed Zara for too long, making Zara too attached to me. She was so glad I finally weaned her off from the breast, even after I told her many times the benefit of breast feeding, including the DHA I'm giving Zara, and the boost of immunity she's getting from all the breast milk.
2) She thinks that a baby should be and can be toilet trained by the 1st few months of life. She's appalled that Zara is still not toilet trained by 1 1/2yrs. She said all her kids were toilet trained within the first few months. I don't believe a child can hold their bowel movement or bladder at such a tender age. It's more of her being 'trained' to bring them to the potty at specific intervals.
3) She over protect the child. Even now, she still has her arms stretched out around Zara when Zara walks about, she's getting ready to catch Zara if Zara fell.
I'm actually quite glad that I get to bring up Zara my way, which is through reading lots of books written by child care experts. Tuyam, my maid, is not married and has not cared for a child before, so I thought her my desired method, and she followed them.
So when MIL came over to the house to stay, both Zara and her were in for some surprises.
MIL was shocked we allowed Zara to play in her bath for so long.
MIL was always following Zara with arms outstretched, Zara found it very annoying.
MIL tried to stop Zara from sucking her thumb, and or course Zara was very upset.
When I wasn't around, Daddy told me that Zara has been asking MIL to be away from her. When Zara is upstairs, she would tell her Mama, "Mama, go down stairs!"
When Zara is downstairs, she would tell her Mama, "Mama, go up stairs!"
And sometimes MIL close her arms around Zara (ready to catch her if she falls), Zara would point to a corner and tell her Mama, "Mama, go there!"
When I was around, I saw Zara pushing MIL away when MIL tried to help her climb a chair or on to the sofa (which Zara is already an expert doing it). I had to chip in and tell Zara, "Cannot be rude to Mama. Mama is just helping ok?" or "Cannot push Mama away, you know Mama is Daddy's Mummy and she sayang (Malay: Love) you very much?". Zara would then turn towards MIL and give her a hug, as though to apologise.
I know MIL loves Zara and cares for her. However, her method is not one that Zara is used to, so Zara is not accepting her. I'm glad and thankful she was wiling to help out when we needed her help. However, I'm also glad that she's not Zara's main care giver, as I think Zara would be a very different person under her care.
Monday, July 10, 2006
How does she know how to use such words?
She likes to grope my breast or Tuyam's, (not sure if this is the symptom of breast feeding her too long), and she'll say when she does that, "Zara humsup (Chinese : act of a pervert)." (I told her before she can't do that, because that's 'humsup')
When her VCD starts showing with the volume turned off, she said, "Oh shit! No sound." (I know this is from me, because I use SHIT very often).
Calming herself, she talked to herself, "Daddy is here, mummy is here mah, no need to be sked (scared)".
She farted and she laughed, "Mummy, Zara fart fart!" "Zara like a skunk." "Zara crazy girl!" "Zara joker" "HaHaHaHa"
Note : This post was written a month ago, and didn't get posted it until today.
Sunday, July 9, 2006
Dolous
When I heard Dolous is back again in Port Klang, I told Daddy about it, and we decided to bring Zara there on Sunday. We arrived at Star Cruise Terminal, West Port 15minutes before it was due opened (@ 2pm), there was already a long long queue awaiting to get in.
Upon seeing such a long queue, Daddy started cursing and swearing. "Such a long queue!?" "You are crazy to want to come!" "Only Malaysians would queue up for such at thing!"
Zara was asleep, so she didn't hear any of daddy's ranting. I just said, "You don't want to queue then go home lor."
"You stay in the car and wait then. I go queue up, and call you when you can come." (It always work if I pretended not to care and let him make the call, hee hee.)
So Zara and myself waited in the airconditioned car, and Daddy went to queue up. It wasn't that bad, within 10mins, he called and told us to come, it was also good timing as Zara has awaken from her nap.
The Doulos
It was a hot day, and the ship was crowded! We could hardly squeeze into the book shop. When we wanted to get an ice cream, another long queue awaited us, so Daddy told me to just forget it. Despite the heat, Zara liked it though, to experience being on a ship, to enjoy the cool breeze on the deck. When Daddy pointed to her the sea below, she insisted, "Zara go down there! Go swimming!"
We spent less than 30mins on board the Doulos
Daddy was so glad to get down from the ship. While we were getting out, check out the number of people waiting to get on board the ship! We spent sometime at the Star Cruise terminal, enjoying the cool breeze from the sea. Zara started exploring, singing, dancing, playing.
If you are interested, the Doulos will be in West Port till end of the month. Admittance is free, you just have to pay RM1 per car to park at the Star Cruise terminal.
Wednesday, July 5, 2006
Mummy Away - again
Me : Mummy going to Hong Kong (just so she doesn't get confused I didn't say Singapore) to work work again, can or not?
Zara : *look a bit upset* Zara no cry. Mummy go work work, Zara sleep with Daddy.
Me : Good girl. Zara be brave and don't cry ok? Mummy come back very fast one.
Zara : Mummy come back very fast. Zara no cry.
Maybe she thought I'll be buying her tons of clothes or toys again. Yikes!
Tuesday, July 4, 2006
Quantifying Love / Pregnancy Update
Zara : Larf
Daddy : How much do you love Daddy?
Zara : Two
Me : Zara, what about mummy? Do you love mummy?
Zara : Larf
Me : How much do you love Mummy?
Zara : SEVEN!
Haha. Daddy 0, Mummy 1
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I'm already into my 2nd trimester. Tummy is already showing. This time, it's protuding front wards instead of going side ways like the time I have Zara.
My appetite is getting better, although I'm still not able to eat as much as I used to when I have Zara.
Because of my age, my next hurdle is doing the amniocentesis around 16weeks (this round I'm not going for the tripple blood test). For those of you who don't know what this is, it's to inject a very long syringe into the abdomen to collect amnionic fluid. The fluid collected is then sent to a lab for culturing to check if the baby has any genetic or chromosomal abnormalities. The wait time for the result is 3 weeks. A long wait!
I remembered the last time when I have Zara, I didn't celebrate until the amnio test came back to say everything is ok. I didn't dare to celebrate. It would be the same this round.
Monday, July 3, 2006
Hong Kong Shopping - Photos
On the last day, however, I saw there was a sale on in Zara! I love the kids clothes from Zara, they are ideal for Zara because she is tall and lean; most of the other international brands like Osh Kosh and Mother Care do not fit her well because they are made for bigger size kids.
Here are the loot I got for her, most of them are from Zara (which became more affordable after discount).
Baby doll clothes are very popular now in Hong Kong. People with flat tummy wearing 'maternity' looking blouse. I got myself one which will cater for the growing tummy. I also got myself a pair of sandals and a bag.
And what is going to Hong Kong without buying the extremely good quality dried sea produce/海味. I got the viagra prawns mentioned in Domestic Rat's blog too, but they are from Southern China and not Sarawak. I bought double of everything below, because I have to give them to MIL as gifts for keeping an eye on Zara and maid during the time I was away.
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Zara modeling her new clothes from Zara.
I got her a watering can from Hong Kong too, she really loves it, and immediately wanted to help Kakak water the plants.
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I wonder when I'll go to Hong Kong again (the last time I went was 20yrs ago with my mum and sis), it's not a holiday destination I have in mind. So I'll wait for my next business trip.
What I like about Hong Kong
~ The transport system, cabs, busses, MTR are very good and extensive.
~ The porridge in Hong Kong is superb, so creamy and delicious. Anybody knows how to make porridge like the ones you find in Hong Kong?
~ The roast goose is to die for.
What I don't like about Hong Kong
~ People smoke indoor, in buildings, in restaurants. Blech!
~ Food or dishes whipped out from restaurants are extremely salty for my liking.
~ Every where is so crowded, and there's no green lungs!
Sunday, July 2, 2006
Hong Kong - Photos
Everything was just like before, she didn't need any 'warm up' time.
Here are some photos taken during my trip.
My first meal; after I arrived and checked in to the hotel, it was already 3pm, so I just walked to a near by coffee shop (茶餐厅) and ordered carrot cake (生煎箩卜糕) for a quick bite. I had a table all to myself, but if I lifted my elbow any higher, I would have touched my neigbour's elbow. The tables were laid just so close to each other.
Around the hotel. I was staying in Causeway Bay 铜锣弯, a very busy shopping district. Shops were opened till 10:30pm - 11pm.
My first taste of the roast goose rice 烧鹅髀饭. It was in a small little neighbourhood restaurant 强记, but it was pretty delicious.
Some safety propaganda in the MTR station.
View from the meeting room in the office.
Dim sum lunch with colleagues.
Dried sea produce shops 海味铺 at Sheung Wan 上环 (an area popular to get dried sea produce). I bought quite a fair bit from this shop.
The famous Yung Kee Restaurant 鏞記酒家, which supposed to serve the best roast goose in Hong Kong Island.
The display of Yung Kee facing the main entrance.